Have you ever known someone that can destroy your good mood in 5 seconds or less? That person that can verbally slap you with such an offensive, rude attitude that it leaves you speechless? I am sure you do, those little shits are everywhere.
How do you keep that from happening? I mean, really and truly not letting some jerk steal your joy? The easy answer is “just don’t let them get to you”. That sounds great, but *HOW* exactly do you do that?
Any advice would be much appreciated. Cupcakes and vodka would also make my day…
xoxo
much more muchier 
Count to 10…or however many it takes and keep counting until you stop hating or resenting that person. After a few times they will simply lose that power over you. So…do you have that bit of self-discipline? If not then maybe THAT person is not the problem.
Good tip, thanks!!
In my role as a Sales Manager, I called these people black holes. These “prospects” were always ready to suck the life out of a sales rep that would engage in a conversation with them, as they peppered the innocent rep with objection after objection, negative statement after negative statement, ad infinitum. Sometimes, you just have to say, “ENOUGH!” Move on.
That’s the key. Move on. Evil is everywhere, rude people are everywhere. Move on. Avoid them. Focus on the things that are important to you — like not being around those black holes.
Sorry I can’t help you with the cupcakes & vodka.
I like your description of these people as black holes, I am going to use that as a silent mantra “Don’t get sucked into the black hole”! Thanks!
That’s easy… Laugh. Laugh at them (tho maybe not in front of them) for being boneheads then laugh at the fact that they don’t have the control over you they want. Jokes on them. You are happy, they are not. Then count the blessing of Karma. It really will come and slap them upside the head…
As I learned today though, if you are around to see karma smack them, try not to show too much joy cause then karma might feel the need to smack you!
I have a difficult time with the whole not laughing (or dancing a jig) when Karma comes around for them. Not very nice (or adult) of me, I know.
I would punch them in the face, laugh at them, and run away. Works EVERY time. … in my dreams.
hahaha! I love the way you think!!!
Yup, a daily attempt is made here. And some days I deal well others I don’t. I think it depends on how “personal” a joy suck it was. Did it feel like they attacked something you hold as part of you? Those are harder to shake off, but I find through practicing to say to myself “Their opinion does not matter … ” each time it comes quicker to my mind. Just like exercising or anything you do in your life, you just have to keep reminding yourself, I also keep little inspirational sayings in my planner I carry and flip them open to lift my heart again.
I have been practicing “shaking it off” these past few weeks and I think it really helped, thanks!!!
Actually, I think that sometimes that person is going through something major in their own psyche of which maybe they are not even aware. Think about how terrible it must be to feel as grumpy as they do and try to have sympathy and empathy. I knew someone like this once – powerful, successful and “mean”; last year she killed herself. It really changed my perspective. Of course, this doesn’t mean you need to “take it” – but perhaps this perspective will help you not take it personally.
Wow, that really puts things in perspective! I need to do a better job remembering that it might not even have anything to do with me, it has to do with that person and what they have going on in their lives.
Internally laugh at them and think over and over…………
You poor jerk, how unhappy you must be with yourself to be such an ass to others!!
You poor jerk, how unhappy you must be with yourself to be such an ass to others!!
You poor jerk, how unhappy you must be with yourself to be such an ass to others!!
Now you know my secret :)~
So true! I think you are right, it all boils down to their own happiness!
Maybe offer them a preventive cupcake and vodka..or just slab them in the face:)
Good Call on the preventative cupcake and vodka! Who could be jerk after all that awesomeness??
I must say people are jerks. But I also have to add that you had me at cupcakes and vodka. đŸ™‚ I’m really enjoying your blog a lot! (even without the cupcakes and vodka…I’m firing whoever has kept these yummies from me.)